When the Past Knocks: Choosing Silence as Your Flight to Freedom
Dear Commander in Flight,
There is a moment in every ascension, in every deep breath of healing, when the memories of your past—ghosts of yesterday—test how high you can soar. These moments arrive quietly, disguised as a midnight text, a phone call after months of silence, or an old friend’s invitation to reconnect. These aren't gestures to reunite; they are attempts to pull your spirit, your growth, and your progress back to the place you have worked to rise above.
This is not a coincidence. It is a test.
Healing is a personal test. Each new height invites your past to question if your freedom is genuine or just a performance. Will you engage, or will you safeguard the truth you have embraced—that a closed chapter must remain closed?
No response is not avoidance. No response is sovereignty. It is like closing a grave and refusing to reopen it; it is not watering seeds that were never intended to grow. Every 'how are you?' from your past is a subtle attempt to draw you back in. Every 'what’s new?' seeks to return you to a pattern you left behind.
When you choose silence, you are not cold. You are not cruel. You are not bitter. You have graduated. You are elevated. You are unshaken in the wisdom that some fires, once extinguished, must remain ashes. To rekindle is to inhale smoke, to suffocate on what once burned you.
Your healing is not negotiable. Your peace is not up for auction. Your future is not a secondhand garment to be tried on by those who forfeited the right to walk with you.
So when your past quietly returns—knocking at your door, testing your strength—remember this: the most significant strength is often found in silence. Proper closure is not in words or meetings, but in a calm stillness that tells the past you have risen above and will not return.
This is the art of preservation. This is the mastery of boundaries. This is the unapologetic graduation into the next chapter of your becoming.
And it is holy.
-Sherley Delia, Founder
